Female host and sponsor brother’s wedding canceled, internet praises why

A woman who generously agreed to host and partially fund her brother’s wedding has rescinded her offer, she says Weekly newspaper About the family drama that went viral.

The 31-year-old, who goes by the handle u/-terrificterror- on Reddit, took to the social media platform for advice and posted that she was “considering calling off” the relationship between her 28-year-old brother and his 25-year-old brother ceremony. -Old girlfriend.

After the fiery messages, the last straw was a quarrel between the woman and her future sister-in-law, which scuppered the wedding plans.

The mum-of-four told her: “I told her she had three seconds to get out of my sight before I summoned the fire of hell on her while instructing my children to leave the room.” Weekly newspaper.

Weekly newspaper It was not possible to verify all details of the case.

wedding on hold

A post on Reddit detailing the initial drama, which can be read here , explains that the European woman owns a house in Colorado “in the middle of the mountains, surrounded by forest. It’s truly stunning and a dream come true.”

The house is so inviting, it seems her brother’s fiancée wants to use it as the venue for her destination wedding.

“While I was hesitant about having my wedding in my dream house, I could definitely understand that my dream house was their dream venue. I told him they absolutely could, but I had some rules,” the woman She wrote, explaining that her brother had asked her about trusteeship.

In agreeing, she also stipulated four rules, including no more than 25 people, no smoking, damage or any decorating choices that could permanently damage the property.

“I offered to decorate and find caterers and that would be my gift to them. My ‘gift’ is almost $10,000 invested so far because it’s my brother’s wedding and that’s what I want to do,” The Reddit user continued.

But despite her efforts, plans for the family’s fairytale wedding quickly fell through.

“Now, his fiancé has decided she needs at least 45 guests. I’m willing to be flexible with one or two guests, but 20? No. On top of that, she wants me to pay to fly her family to Colorado because I gave the money to my other brother and he would actually pay it back to me when he could afford a plane ticket,” the woman explained.

“I told her no and I got yelled at. She also wanted me to build a pergola, paint my living room and pay for drinks.

“I said no, I’ve done enough. She’s now taking it upon herself to tell people that I’m going to make good on my promise, that I left her hanging, and that she can’t afford the super expensive wedding I’m throwing,” she said of her plans. . She didn’t even invite my grandparents just to annoy me. I get at least two messages a day asking why I’m ruining her day or if I’m jealous,” she added.

“I’m considering canceling the whole thing,” she said in the post, while expressing concern about leaving her brother in trouble.

family influence

But then things came to a head at a family gathering when the two women faced off against each other.

The woman, who asked not to be named, told reporters Weekly newspaper: “I told her and my brother that as my home was unsuitable for her needs and the stress she was experiencing from her verbal abuse of my children, I no longer felt I was giving them an appropriate gift by providing the venue , catering services and decorations.

“I said I felt that in trying to protect my home, I was limiting their options too much and getting in the way of their dream wedding, and therefore I would no longer be hosting weddings,” she added.

The couple had mixed reactions to the news, she continued: “My brother seemed relieved and admitted he didn’t quite want a destination wedding and that things got a little out of hand in the planning stages, thanking me for offering to help. , and offered to help.” To repay my lost deposit, I was grateful but declined.

I said no, I’ve done enough.

-terrible horror-

“His SO [significant other]Yet she accused me of being petty and jealous because “I’m single and no one wants me” and went out of her way to stress her out and ruin her day. “

Later, as more family members became involved, the bride-to-be made some selective comments about the woman’s two adopted children.

she told Weekly newspaper: “My dad stepped in and said it was indeed better for her to leave and told my brother he was sorry but it was unacceptable.

“My brother agreed, took his family home and called me to apologize and said wedding plans had been put on hold until she ‘came to her senses’.”

What do the comments say?

The Reddit post has been liked 5,000 times and thousands more have commented since it was shared to the social media platform on February 24.

“Back then, if she invited me, no matter where, I wouldn’t go,” one user wrote.

Another Reddit user added: “Cancel the wedding. Block her. If anyone bothers you about this, send them these screenshots.”

“Yeah, cancel and get as much of the deposit back as possible. You don’t need a wedding to get married. They can go to court. Marriage is the most important thing, right?” said a third person.

Expert verdict: Cancel the whole thing

Weekly newspaper Frank Thewes, a practicing therapist and owner of Path Forward Therapy in New Jersey, asked for his thoughts on the tense situation and advice for the woman.

“I think it would be the right thing for everyone if she called off the whole thing. She wouldn’t cheat on her brother. Her brother’s fiancé is cheating on him with her shameless and relationship-straining behavior,” Trump said. Weiss told reporters. Weekly newspaper.

“Just cancel. They can find their own venue and invite whoever they want. Everyone will be better off in the long run. This woman has already given so much to her brother’s seemingly ungrateful fiancé, And it’s not enough.”

“There is no real relationship to save here. If this woman’s brother is angry with her, then he needs to do some self-reflection on who he is marrying and why he is allowing her to treat his sister like this,” he added .

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